Many dark skin black women have traumatic childhood stories about colorism. As women who get the brunt of colorism, dark skinned black women recall stories from their childhood that made them feel belittled, undermined, and over all less than human. There are many stories online with dark skinned black women talking about their colorism experiences. All of which have different age ranges. When they open up about their experiences, some will admit they did not feel as joyful as other young girls did. You even hear about some who went through dangerous measures to alter their skin! For the youth in later generations ,it is not too late. Older dark skinned black women can take their experiences and make sure that these younger dark skin girls have as many combative tools to fight colorism with as possible. Mothers, and older sisters can pass these tips on to the youth to improve the self esteem of the young dark skinned girls that are coming up.
1. BOMBARD her with Images of Herself
Were you the type of parent to buy your child every type of doll? I’m talking about every color of the rainbow Barbie doll. Big mistake! When young black girls play with these dolls, they are pretending to be them! They are pretending to have the loose straight hair that they don’t have in real life. They are pretending to have the blue eyes they don’t have and any other feature that we are not commonly known for. Who they dress up as for Halloween (snow white,Elsa, Cinderella) can play a big role in their confidence as well. Don’t think it’s just cute and for pretend, it means so much more deep down inside. You may think that there is no harm in owning multiple dolls, but there is. Don’t allow your young dark skin daughter to fantasize about people she cannot be. Buy her black dolls. Black girl coloring books. Show her with black movies. Surround her with black paintings. Anything you can think of in your immediate environment that is for black women, celebrate it. This will teach her that there is a high value in her phenotype and the people who represent her. Putting herself first will make her feel better about herself.