6 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self | Tips For Dark Skinned Black Girls

1. Let Your Insecurities Push You To Be Greater

Even though I practice daily affirmations, there are still a number of things that I’m insecure about. Why? Because I’m simply not perfect, and neither are you. And regardless of how many self-help books you’ve read, you’re bound to experience some insecurities in a world where perfection is everything. So if insecurities are inevitable, how can we use them to our benefit? Well, instead of brushing off your insecurities, allow them to motivate you to improve yourself. Insecure about your career? Find a good mentor who can give you practical tips or simply read up on your area of expertise. Insecure about your looks? Learn how to do your own makeup, make a habit of pampering yourself regularly and maintaining your personal hygiene and soon you’ll begin to feel not only beautiful, but worthy and valuable.

2. Black Women Are The Future

Black women are finally winning and we are completely here for it. We are beginning to recognize our worth and stand up against our mistreatment in society. There are so many reasons to love being a black woman including the beauty and versatility of our natural hair, our full lips and curvy figures, the way we age gracefully and the fact that we’re currently the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs in America! Moreover, harping down on yourself and/or other black women is so last year. In 2018, we are not only uplifting ourselves but we’re also making room for other black women to shine. Instead of envying other beautiful, happy and successful women, allow yourself to be inspired by their success and try to incorporate more of their positive attitudes and mindsets into your life.

3. Don’t Be Afraid To Take Fashion/Beauty Risks

Society is overly restrictive when it comes to what black women can and cannot wear. Darker skinned women are often discouraged from wearing brighter colors or from experimenting with unique hair colors and textures. Don’t let this fact stop you from having fun and experimenting with different hair colors, or wearing daring colors or bold lipsticks that highlight your skin tone.

4. Don’t Obsess Over The Length of Your Natural Hair

Despite the natural hair explosion all over social media, there is still preferential treatment for those with super thick, curly (not coily) and long locks. We need to begin to find love and acceptance and beauty in natural hair that may be a little thinner or shorter. Remember going natural doesn’t mean your hair will look exactly like the Instagram models right away or ever, and that’s okay. Instead of stressing over thickness and length, focus only the health of your hair and make sure to moisturize regularly and wear gentle styles that won’t stress your edges.

5. Value Organizations That Value YOU

This tip is directed moreso towards the parents of dark-skinned black girls. It’s important to surround your darker-skinned girls (and boys) with beautiful images of black people in books, cinema and art. Read poems and sing songs that validate and affirm black beauty. Likewise, it’s important to only spend time with supportive, appreciative and respectful people who value your unique contribution to the world. Don’t feel obligated to support colorist companies or entertainers who undermine your image, but instead, lend your support and money to businesses and people who value you.

6. Don’t Be Afraid To Be A Trailblazer

Who says black women don’t belong in Wall Street or other industries? The sky is the limit. It may be difficult to be the only black and female CEO in your field or the only black female in your workspace, but don’t let that stop you from feeling confident and worthy of being there. Imposter syndrome is a real thing and it’s especially evident in black women who are trailblazing through fields that are traditionally white-owned and white-dominated. However, remember that you wouldn’t be there if you weren’t qualified and many others often feel like imposters too, no matter how confident they appear from the outside.

“Grace is a freelance writer and blogger from Canada. Her work has been featured on HerCampus, 21Ninety, Read Unwritten. She is a voracious reader, a dog-lover and a self-professed pop culture junkie. Her other hobbies include watching sappy romantic comedies, consuming too many strawberry-filled doughnuts and people-watching. Grace currently attends university, where she is working towards a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Pre-Law.”


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