3. Use A Journal To Practice Daily Affirmations
Going through a breakup? Lost your job? Feeling hopeless, sad or even ecstatic? Journaling is a fantastic way to help work through the emotions that you are harboring. It will help you develop a sense of who you are…if you do it right. Don’t just use your journal to record the mundane things that happened in your day, but use it to reframe your thoughts positively and show self-love. Start your journal entries with the following affirmative sentences:
If you journal in the mornings, you can write this: “Today, I will show myself love by_______” or list 10 things you love about yourself and write kind notes that show self-love.
If you journal in the evenings, you can write: “Tomorrow, I will create a better day by_____” or “Two (or more) positive things that happened today are______”
4. Exercise and Get Enough Sleep
I know what you’re thinking: how is exercise on a list of pampering? Well, while a sweaty night in a gym on the treadmill may not be your favorite way to spend a Friday night, it will benefit and pamper your body and mind in the long run! Likewise, by taking yourself to bed earlier you can prevent or lessen depression, anxiety and irritability, as well as increase memory retention. Moreover, you will feel better equipped to face the day the next morning. Ways to help ensure that you get a good night of sleep include putting away your phone one hour before bed time, taking a shower, drinking a cup of tea or doing some meditation practices to help slow and control your breathing.
5. Get In Touch With Your Spirit
There are all types of ways to build a tradition of spiritual practices to keep you grounded, happy and loving life. Remember, being religious is not the only way to be spiritual. Listening to a philosophy video or reading some philosophy, meditation, doing yoga, Pilates, praying or going to church – even meeting with a group of other like-minded people is a great way to establish some peace and fulfill yourself.
6. Find Your Purpose
For me, my life didn’t really begin until I discovered my purpose: helping other black women. But for you, your purpose may be working with kids, helping the elderly, creating art or music, or anything else. You can’t have hope and feel fulfilled in life without finding something that makes your heart sing, so to speak. Try and find your purpose by putting yourself out there, exploring new hobbies and even volunteering—all of which can help you discover why you’ve been placed on this Earth.
7. Get Some Therapy
Yes, we may all be a little crazy and messed up, but that doesn’t mean you wouldn’t benefit from some professional counselling. Your mental health comes first and if there is anything standing in the way of you feeling great about yourself and your life, consider getting some professional help!
The black community has a history of pushing mental health to the backburner and “praying depression away”, but let’s turn this around in 2019. If you’re sick (whether mentally or physically), go see a doctor. Your body, mind and soul will thank you for it. Even if you can’t afford a private therapist, there are public counselling resources available. Moreover, if you’re not struggling with mental health issues but need a boost in your life, look into getting a life coach to help push you to the next level.
All in all, self-love is a process of defining and working towards your ideal life by prioritizing your personal aspirations. It’s more than just spa days and rest—it’s also about living your best life, however that may be possible.
“Grace is a freelance writer and blogger from Canada. Her work has been featured on HerCampus, 21Ninety, Read Unwritten. She is a voracious reader, a dog-lover and a self-professed pop culture junkie. Her other hobbies include watching sappy romantic comedies, consuming too many strawberry-filled doughnuts and people-watching. Grace currently attends university, where she is working towards a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Pre-Law.”