We dark-skinned women get accused of being too exclusionary all too much. This platform being just for us is often perceived as a threat to others, as many cannot understand why dark-skinned women and girls might need to have a platform of their own that uplifts their image. Redheads can have spaces. Left-handed people can have spaces. Italian women can have spaces. But dark-skinned women? It seems it’s a little too much for many.
In the outrage over a platform like this, I often hear the same criticism being brought up again and again: “Why can’t dark-skinned women be more inclusive?” Sure. Okay. That’s fair. Let us be more inclusive. In an effort to pave the way for more “inclusivity,” I’d like to give a heartfelt shout out to other moms in the game working hard at raising their babies – babies they created with men who were not their spouses, men whom they will probably never marry, or men whom they birthed babies for while that man was in another relationship. Kudos to all the non-black baby mamas out there – this one’s for you.
If you are drawing a blank at exactly who this spotlight is intended for, it is for the Bristol Palins, the Kate Hudsons, the Kourtneys, Kylies and Khloes. Black women get all the attention when it comes to discussing this issue of babies being made out of wedlock, born into broken family situations, so I want to be sure we share the stage with our non-black sisters. It’s only fair.