Self-love is a trend and an important one. In particular, it should be a priority for us black women, who often get caught in trying to take care of everyone else’s needs at our own expense. However, if I’m being honest, I often doubt whether this well-meaning fad is being executed properly by the general population. While settling onto the couch with a bottle of Rosé and splurging on instagram-worthy reading socks are certainly fun ways to spend our time, are they really the most effective ways to love ourselves? Truthfully, learning to love yourself is a very daunting task and way big of a task to achieve by buying bath bombs and advocado juice.
The fact is that many of us are self-soothing by splurging and calling it “self-love”, in an effort to hide a very sad fact: we don’t even like ourselves. So today, instead of giving you some vague ideas about how to enter into this undefined and often unattainable realm of self-love, I’m going to give you some very simple practical tips to teach you how to learn to yourself.
you kind of have to like yourself first in order to get to that next step of falling head over heels in love with yourself.
1. Learn Who You Are
Everybody and their next door neighbour are buying detox tea and Hulu subscriptions in an effort to “pamper” themselves. Our society has come to understand how important it is to learn to love ourselves, but we just need a little help on understanding how to do it. You see, you can buy all the self-help books in the world and still not know how to practice self-love. Why? Because unless you know yourself inside and out and unless you learn how to become your own best friend, your efforts will have been in vain.