There’s no way around it, experiencing colorism no matter if you’re a kid, teen, or adult can take a toll on your mental health, and even your physical health. There are dark-skinned women who experience colorism all the time, have very tragic colorism stories that they carry with them and feel the direct impact daily.
And there are dark-skinned women who understand colorism, have experienced it from time to time and understand the larger impact it has on themselves and women who look like them. I fall into the second category; but not by luck, or by accident. I purposefully take steps to ensure that my life is as colorism free as it possibly can be.
1. I keep anyone who I even THINK is colorist 100 ft away from me at all times.
When it comes to colorist behavior I will cut off anybody who makes any sort of colorist comment; be it by a family, or friend. I lessened contact with a friend of five years, who is a lighter skinned woman and who made a comment that even though all she likes and dates are very dark-skinned black men, she doesn’t want her daughter to have “that kind of nappy hair”.