For many of us the scariest thing about breaking up is this fear that you won’t ever find better than what you’ve had before. We convince ourselves that our ex was as good as it gets and either try to rekindle things with them or quickly leap into another relationship with both eyes closed.
Being single feels like a punishment worthy enough to have its own level in Dante’s Inferno and we are willing to do almost anything to not have to endure the pains of singlehood any longer. I’m here to assure you that despite how you feel, you’re not only wrong, but entertaining thoughts dangerous to leveling up and dangerous to your goal of being in a healthy and happy relationship. Trust the process, and breakups and singledom are all part of the process.
Blocking Your Blessings
It might be hard to believe right now but being single is one of the best positions you can be in to get the kind of relationship you want. When you’re available that gives another man the opportunity to woo you sans barriers. By remaining hung up on your ex (yes, we know it’s just been a week and still don’t care) you’re blocking your own romantic advancements. Yes, you should give yourself time to heal and do whatever it is that you need to do but keep the pity party short.