*DISCLAIMER*: This message ain’t for everybody.
In recent blackisphere media news, there has been a lot of talk about Jodie Turner Smith. The beautiful actress of the movie Queen and Slim announced that she was not only married but pregnant! To most, this would be something to celebrate; A dark-skinned black woman who is having kids in wedlock with a ring and man right by her side. So what’s the problem? Well, he’s white. And as anyone who is part of the community knows, black women are only allowed to be happy, married, having kids in wedlock with black men…who are largely not doing the same for us (*Cough* 80% out of wedlock rate).
I’m not here to discuss how hypocritical black men are, how they wouldn’t even be checking for a Jodie in the first place, or the double standards when it comes to dark-skinned black women dating out. I’m here to address my fellow dark-skinned women. Since black men love to trash us, make fools of us, mock us, and think they can carry on this community without us, make like Jodie and take your womb and go.
Black women for the most part seem to have this idea that they can guilt black men into caring about them, or loving them. The colorism in the community runs too deep, men are wired to associate the woman that they have on their arm with status, and to many black men dark-skinned women are undesirable and low-status. Unfortunately there is not much we can do to sway the minds of our men and I’ve accepted this long ago, I implore other sisters to do the same.